On Whispering in Our Clinics

I have a clinic that is so small, we whisper in the waiting/reception area.  Some time ago I found this and saved it, and now cannot remember where I got it!  But I’d like to share it with other Whispering Clinics.

Why do we Yell in Anger? 

A sage asked his followers, ‘Why people yell at each other when they are upset?’

The disciples thought for a while, ‘Because we lose our calmness,’ said one. ‘we

yell for that.’

‘But, why to yell when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the sage. ‘

Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you yell at a

person when you’re angry?’

The disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage. Finally he

explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a

lot. To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to hear each other. The

angrier they are, the stronger they will have to yell to hear each other through

that great distance.’

Then the sage asked, ‘ What happens when two people fall in love? They do not

yell at each other but talk softly, why?  Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.’

The sage continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens?

They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their

love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and

that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

Then the sage said, ‘When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not

say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the 

distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

Author: lumiel

I earned a B.A. in Hotel/Restaurant Admin, but soon realized that I wanted to do something more meaningful.  Became interested in nutrition and education when pregnant with my first child. Interest in health led me to becoming a foot reflexologist, which led to a massage practice and suddenly discovering the love of my life: Chinese medicine! Practicing for 18 years, Hawaiian/Californian, acu-educated PCOM San Diego/OCOM Portland. Started my CAP in <a href="https://www.communityacu.com/" target="_blank">San Rafael</a>, Marin County, July 4, 2006, even while earning my doctorate at OCOM.  This didn't seem to make sense, but it was my way of comparing the old way of practicing acupuncture to a simpler, truer expression of what I had learned in school.  I love it. And I love being a part of this grand movement to change the world by being true to our conscience. Reopened all over again when I moved to a place where no one had ever heard of me. 3 months open so far, and just beginning to meet expenses. I have no doubt this will succeed and I will be hiring by next year.

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  1. Beautiful

    Wonderful imagery. Thanks for sharing.

    It is one of the commonest mistakes to consider that the limit of our 

    power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive. –C.W. Leadbeater

  2. a unique benefit of CA

    Beautiful Lumiel. And, it makes me realize that one of the benefits of CA (for both patient and practitioner) is the whispering. What might seem an inconvenience – the need to whisper – to the loud American persona,  turns into an opportunity to narrow the distance between two hearts, to become more intimate….with professional boundaries as my esteemed colleague Moses reminds me.

    Doesn’t everyone need/want more intimacy? The usual health care encounter does not provide that – the vocalizations are much louder and abrasive in my experience. In Community Acupuncture, we get to whisper. How utterly delightful. And though at CommuniChi there is a wall and a thick door that stops most noise from travelling from the reception area to the treatment area, the habit seems to carry over anyways. People keep whispering…maybe even out the door into their suddenly more intimate, more heart centered, more self-loving, unconditional loving, lives.

  3. Exactly so!

    You said:  People keep whispering…maybe even out the door into their suddenly more intimate, more heart centered, more self-loving, unconditional loving, lives.

    Two weeks ago a new patient began treatment here.  He came back several days later and reported good results, and then he laughed quietly and said that he had gone home and told his son that he had just had acupuncture, and felt great!  His son asked, “Dad, why are you whispering?”

  4. Thanks for sharing

    I really like this.  When i read it a couple months ago, and I have noticed that it has changed how I deal with people in ALL areas of my life…not just patients.  Thanks so much. 🙂

    This also fits in with the whole liver yang/ loud voice connection from TCM….at least my teachers from China always said that people with really loud voices are livery.  So maybe when we whisper we soothe livers?  Maybe when patients speak in hushed tones they calm their liver and it is part of the treatment?